Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Hands Off the Belly, Stranger!

Now that I've got myself a nice baby bump going on, I'm finding people, especially strangers, having this impulse to ask me when I'm due, what I'm having...and to touch my belly.

You know, I don't mind it so much when it's someone I know, especially because my friends have the good sense to ask or forewarn me that they want to see if they can feel the baby moving. And I actually enjoy sharing that with my friends and family. My issue, I'm learning, is when strange people see my prego self and without forewarning put their hands on my bump. This is evidently a no-no with me.

I've always had an issue with odd people touching me...I hate even accidentally bumping into someone or being in a crowded place where a stranger is sure to graze my arm. The idea of someone I don't know making even the slightest physical contact with me skeeves me out and makes me uncomfortable. Now that I'm pregnant though, people apparently feel entitled to making this physical contact and grabbing the belly...and I am just not a fan. I think part of it is coming from the aversion I've always had to it, but another part is out of protecting my kid. I know that my baby is safe in my belly, but the idea of a stranger touching my child's safe-keeping doesn't sit well with me. Especially when it comes without warning. It doesn't matter to me how friendly you may seem or how many kids you may have....if I don't know you and you don't ask, touching my belly is asking for the lioness to come out and bite your head off. We teach our children not to talk to strangers, shouldn't that begin with not allowing these strangers to touch our kids, whether they're still growing in mommy or not?

So please, strange people, ask all the questions you want, I'll answer you politely...but when you're talking to me remember, keep your hands off the belly!


  1. this is one Im glad never happened to me...they always were asking but no one ever actually touched my belly, I would've flipped haha

  2. AMEN! I had the parent of a band student touch my belly without warning at a practice the other night and I almost lost it on her. I've had to explain to my girls that I coach that just because I'm growing a person and look different that it doesn't mean that I all of a sudden love being touched, especially in the belly - I've actually had to slap hands away. UGH, people - stop touching me!