Sunday, June 12, 2011

No Offense, But I Don't Want to Hear Your Horror Story...

I'm noticing a lot lately that women have a no-holds-bar approach when it comes to speaking to pregos. From the best birth stories, to the horrific ones, I'm pretty sure I've heard it all by now...even when I didn't particularly want to....and though I may think I've heard it all, I'm sure someone will manage to pull one over on me.

For those who don't know me all that well, I'm never the one to stop you in the middle of the story and tell you to just "stop". If you've got something to say, I'll listen, though I can't promise I'll want to get into conversation with you for a while again, especially if you've shared your horribly scary pregnancy or birthing story with me. For someone who is becoming a mommy, I'm still on the squeamish side when it comes to hearing about how awfully sick you may have been or how many times you were stuck with a needle during an epidural....as was the conversation a strange woman at the PX chose to engage me in last week. I shudder at the memory of this clueless woman telling me her experience...and totally freaking me out.

Lucky for me I've got a great support system of people who are incredibly reassuring when it comes to me wigging out a bit over the idea that I have to push out a kid in November and all that comes with. But still, pregnancy enough can be a scary and nervewrecking time (though it sure has it's wonderful points as well) without the well-meaning people who feel so compelled to share unfortunate stories. And while I'm sorry that those experiences may have happened, and any other time I'm sure I would compassionately listen...now isn't exactly a time when I want to hear things that will scare me, make me shudder, or just completely blow my mind.

If you ever want to say something to a pregnant woman, how about just telling her that her bump is cute?

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