Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Am I Supposed to Be Scared?

It's funny, the closer I get to my due date, the more non-chalant I'm finding my attitude towards labor to be. It's not that I'm not a bit nervous, and it's not that I don't really's just that I'm in a peaceful mindset of "what's going to happen is going to happen".

And apparently this surprises people.

I can't tell you how many times I've been asked "aren't you even a little scared of labor?" Um, no. Not really to be honest. It's funny because I'm normally such a planner and so uppity about things like this...but when it comes to going into labor and delivering my baby, I'm feeling anxious and yes, but very relaxed.

Don't get me wrong, I'm nervous alright...who wouldn't be? This is a totally foreign, new experience and I don't really know what to expect...and there isn't much someone can tell you to expect. I mean, can you truly explain what a contraction felt like? Can you truly describe the pain you experienced? Sure, there are the generic "it hurts like nothing you've ever felt before" and "contractions are like cramps...but different..." But what can you really tell another woman about labor? Not much, I wouldn't think, since everyone has a different experience.

And so I'm finding myself looking at labor and the birthing experience like this:
It's going to happen. This baby needs to enter the world and I have to help him or her get here safely, so what's the point in wasting time being scared out of my mind? I'd much rather go into the process with a clear mind, the understanding that this is something unknown to me so I want to play everything by ear, and a sense of relative calmness rather than stress. What's the point in stressing over giving birth? Unless someone legitimately tells me it's a time to worry, and gives me a good reason, I'd rather take my own approach.

It makes you wonder too, that if labor were as scary as some people make it seem to be...why would any one do it repeatedly? It's like a Freddy Kruger movie...if it scares you that much, do you watch it again? Probably not. But labor? Well, the human population is still it can't be that horrific.

So no, dear curious cats, I'm not scared or terrified of labor. Am I supposed to be?


  1. I got the same questions constantly...I Wasnt either...woman have been doing it for how long....and honestly it's a great many stories ppl tried to tell me oh it's so painful and all these horror stories, I jsut brushed it all off and had to judge it for myself and actually besides being exhausted I had a GREAT experience

  2. New follower from Cari's blog :)
    Glad to see your little man is here. Hope all is going well and welcome to Mommyhood!