Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Frustration and Worry

This week I had my 38-39 week doctor's appointment, which included discussing my labor plans, checking for progress and discussing the results of my group strep b test. I can easily say that this week was the most frustrating I've had throughout my entire pregnancy.

Part of the reason I'm not a huge fan of doctors stems from the fact that I find them to be overly clinical, under-sensitive, and too willing to explain bad things rather than good. Prime example? The results from my strep test.

Normally I see a nurse practitioner for my appointments, and have opted for a nurse or midwife to assist with my labor rather than a doctor (for the record, I'm not a fan of using the term "delivery" one is delivering my baby to me, I am giving birth!). I have always felt that nurses and midwives are more compassionate and empathetic, and more willing to take the time to spend with patients than doctors are. However, for this particular appointment, the only provider available was a female doctor. Fine. I can deal with that. It's a woman (I have a "thing" with male docs. Hate em.), and it's a short appointment. No big deal. By the end of the appointment though, I stood corrected. Once again, I found a doctor to be upsettingly clinical, uncompassionate and just not my cup of tea...

Immediately at the beginning of my appointment I was informed that I am strep-positive. About 30% of pregnant women become strep-positive during gestation, and it's something that is easily handled during labor. However, the way this doctor explained everything to me made it seem horrifically scary...and made me bawl like a baby when I left the office. I don't quite understand where this doctor's logic came from, but rather than telling me how easy it is to treat, her choice of explanation was one in which she told me every possible awful outcome of being strep-positive, and the terrifying potential that my baby could become very sick, even septic. Seriously?

Seriously. Rather than telling me that there are small potentials for things to happen, as there are in any case of carrying a child and giving birth regardless of strep status, she chose to scare the crap out of me. Rather than telling me that all it takes is a dose of medication when I get to the hospital, she chose to inform me of what would happen if I didn't get the medicine, or my baby didn't get it quickly enough.

I find this approach to be incredibly unnecessary. Why upset someone and make them worry over something that is dealt with every day? All I can say is thank goodness for the nice nurse who explained that everything was fine and really how "not that big of a deal, I promise" this is...for the medics my husband works with for confirming this fact...for my good friend Kim who's dealt with the same thing...and for my mom who made it all better. I don't know what I'd do without the support system I have....but I do know I wanted to smack that doctor.

On top of everything else, it seems I'm not making much progress towards active labor. While the baby is dropped and in a really good position, my body doesn't seem to agree and hasn't started to progress much at all. I know that I'm still 9 days from my due date...but I'm so anxious to have this baby, that not making much progress is incredibly frustrating. I guess it's just one of those weeks....


  1. awe man that really stinks that she explained the whole thing to you like she did... :-(

    Im so excited for really is a great experience to go thru and everything will be great stay strong and positive thoughts your little peanut will be here soon

    xoxo (hugs)

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